Friends

Friendships

I have always found friendships very valuable as I am sure we all do really. I love people. I love connecting with people and sharing in their lives, their joys, excitement, thrills, accomplishments etc. I also know the value of having friends that are there for you when you need them.

When I reflect on my friendships over the years the friends I truly cherish and respect are the ones who are honest with me, sometimes brutally. I need to know when I am too much and I also need to know when I am behaving in ways that are not ok. I can be trouble at times but I am growing, as we all too. Your friends are the ones who help you to grow. I love that quote from the notebook where Noah says to allie “you tell me when I am being an arrogant son of a bitch and I tell you when you are a pain in the ass. Which you are, 99% of the time. I’m not afraid to hurt your feelings. You have like a 2 second rebound rate, then you’re back doing the next pain-in-the-ass thing.” I like to think that this kind of conversation can be applicable to friends. I might be mad at my friends when they give me “constructive” criticism (euphemism) but it’s only because when I admit it to myself upon reflection later I know they are right.

I have never been comfortable with being a mean person but as I have grown up and as I am becoming a young woman I realise now the importance of knowing what it is that you value. How many of us sit back and actually think, what is it that I expect from a friend? How many of my friends are actually fulfilling those expectations. Since my new move back to Wellington this year I have had the pleasure of meeting some really amazing people and reinventing myself. I have also gotten back in touch with others I had lost touch with. It is truly amazing how we change, how we adapt and how 3+ years can make all the difference.

I’ve also been reflecting a lot on the kind of friend that I would like to be. I have come to know that in order to manifest and attract the ideal friendships into my life I need to be the kind of person that those sorts of people would want to befriend. This doesn’t mean having fancy things, or being popular etc (its not high school anymore) but more being honest, being reliable, but also being my bubbly, usually positive self. I want to be the person that always has something good to say about my day. That is why I have so loved participating in my 365 days of happiness group on Facebook. Documenting every day what made you happy in your day is a great way of reminding yourself what is great about life.

Even those of us who are introverted and solitary need people from time to time, its human nature. Where would we be without our friends. Friendship is about give and take and as I grow older I realise that it is ok to distance yourself from those you no longer seem to get that much from. It doesn’t necessarily mean they are bad people, it just means you have drifted apart. Acquaintances are therefore great too.

So many of my smiles through life have been because of my friends and I would like to think in 50 years from now some of the friends I have today I will still have then. Because life is about sharing moments, laughs, smiles, tears, achievements, joy. So thank you to my friends, my acquaintances and the people I have yet to meet along the way. Love and Light

Creatures great and small

Isn’t the animal kingdom so beautiful? One of my favourite things is seeing mother bears with their cubs they are like humans except for the fact that they are clearly not. Sometimes I think that if we looked at the animal kingdom a bit more clearly we would be able to right some of our own wrongs and come up with ways to get back to nature. One of the most misunderstood creatures would have to be the pitbull. I used to find it hilarious hearing peoples perceptions of them and then watching how their ferocious little miniature terriers and poodles and balls of fur would behave. All gods creatures great and small deserved to be loved. Unfortunately the pitbull breed is sadly the dog of choice for complete mongrel human beings and therefore they end up copping the flack for demonstrating the behaviour their owners train them to convey.  They are actually by nature very caring and docile animals.  Extremely loyal!  The most dangerous animal on earth is actually the human. We are the ones that create so much destruction and cause so much damage. I feel perhaps we need to get off our high horse and come down to the animal level.

I am a proud supporter of the World Wildlife Fund and I donate ever month. It is not a large donation but I feel obliged to help support and defend these creatures who cannot defend themselves against us.  One thing I love about dogs and cats is that they are a great source of comfort to the elderly especially when they have lost their partner and are needing the company and companionship they so dearly miss.

I had the most gorgeous little creature who I miss dearly who sadly passed away, my little Pepi was a long haired Chihuahua (not everyones favourite breed) he used to sleep on the pillow next to me. Cuddling up to him at night was the best.  It was lovely to have a little creature who was always excited to see you.  I often recommend to my clients who are suffering through hard times or are needing a little bit of companionship to invest in pets.  They will never let you down in this area.  Well….except maybe for cats.  They are not the most affectionate of creatures.

Which animal do you relate to the most?  I have always thought of myself as a butterfly. I like to think that I can crawl into my little cocoon and evolve and emerge a beautiful graceful magnificent butterfly.  If you could reincarnate and come back as an animal what would you choose?  I think I would be a falcon. I find them so majestic and capable.  I love the confidence that they seem to radiate.  I cannot also exclude the fact that I would love to be able to just lift myself up off the ground and fly away whenever I pleased.

Life is so precious, animals especially should be cherished and protected, not exploited and poached to near extension. I know there will always will be creatures that we do not favour but I like to think that everything has its place in the circle of life (excuse the lion king quote)

So I would like to devote this next week to cherishing our little four, 2 and even eight legged creatures great and small.

Love and Light

Isis