Bertie Botts Every Flavour Beans

It doesn’t come down to a justification of what you think you know about the truth. You can get to a place where you think you’ve figured stuff out and that you know how to know things, how to deal with things, how to anticipate things and that this thing called life is something you have complete control over.  Forget everything you think you know about how things are going to work out for you or which track you are on and don’t hold on to the image in your mind of how it was supposed to be.  Just let go and trust.

Some days are just plain awful.  They are days that test you, that pull you out of yourself and make you reconfigure yourself again.  No matter what you do, no matter what happens to you, let it empower you and keep you moving forward.  Everything that happens in life is a lesson and it builds you into the character that you are going to become.

I am finding it especially hard to keep up with myself recently.   It’s a little nauseating and I have grown tired of the Bertie Botts every flavoured beans variety of different emotions and feelings towards different things.

I’ve done a lot of soul searching this last week trying to figure out who I am as a person and what my true values are.  I’ve looked back over past memories and seen patterns that seem to repeat.  I know I play a part in some things, but there are also things I take responsibility for that I shouldn’t.

My main theme this week has been love.  A topic that is my favourite and my least favourite all at the same time.  It’s a topic I have been trying to get my head around since before I can remember.  I inherited the hopeless romanticism of both of my parents.  At this stage, I haven’t figured it out just yet so romantic love is in the “come back later” corner for now.  What has been amazing this week is the kind of love that never fails you…  I have been so cared for by people and it’s reassuring to finally be able to let my insecurities go that I have to always be happy bouncy joyful Hannah.  I guess I have a huge fear of rejection and so showing the true state of my underlying emotion isn’t always my forte but I am getting better at this.

Sometimes you just have to let go and surrender to a really sucky emotion and reach out when you need it.  Don’t be too proud to say you’re not ok when you’re not ok.  Friends are there to help because if you’re a true friend to them then you will have done the same for them at some stage or have the intention to do so in future.  It’s a beautiful thing when you can walk down the street one week on from hitting rock bottom and look up to the sky and smile and just shake your head and say, what are you doing to me.

I’ve had some weird coincidences this week, some things that are falling into place that make me wonder if maybe, just maybe, everything really does happen for a reason and something amazing is just around the corner because I feel excited, I feel weird, I feel different, I have this confidence back that I haven’t felt in a long time, I feel like the most exciting thing about this whole process of the last two years is that finally, I’ve come to love myself.

I am absolutely bananas at times, and I can be a lot to keep up with but I know how to laugh at myself and I still have that connection to my inner child where at the end of the day if it ends up being me alone again I can sit alone in a room and play.  Wether it be dancing around like a ninny with my headphones plugged in pretending I am beyonce, writing dreams and manifestations of how my life is going to be, pinteresting ferociously so that all that I am is recorded onto digital boards or watching films and movies that make me think about situations from a whole new perspective again.

I guess what I am trying to get across here is that nothing lasts forever, emotions don’t, feelings don’t, situations don’t, so live in the moment. When things are going well truly enjoy them and when things aren’t going so well allow yourself to feel it and learn from it and take what you need and then put your dancing shoes on and create a new state.

What if instead of spending hours in the past missing memories, or wishing we could change things, we painted pictures in our minds of possibilities and chapters we haven’t reached yet that are going to redefine happiness for us.  Slow down, take each day as it comes and take one step at a time enjoying the small things that come up along the way.  Life is about the journey not the destination.  Practice gratitude and smile 🙂

In the words of Taylor Swift “When I was drowning, that’s when I could finally breathe.”

Coming out of my Cocoon

I want to fall in love with myself.  I don’t mean that in an egotistical, big headed, way too much self-confidence way.  I just want to be a bit kinder to myself.  Give myself a break and become my own best friend. I want to get lost and piece myself back together all over again.  I want to visit and discover cultures that I have never encountered before. Come to understand new things that I am not exposed to here.  Learn new things about myself that you only learn from starting fresh and being stripped of all familiar surroundings.  I want to feel the rush of the unknown, meet new people, see new colours, experience new smells and taste the sweet salts of the earth.  I love my country.  New Zealand is a beautiful place. New Zealand is and always will be home but there’s a new fire within me that has been lit and I have changed and have become restless. These itchy feet won’t stay planted for much longer.

I’ve always been one to express myself through words.  I love language and expression and so the idea of travelling the world jotting down my thoughts dazzles and dizzies me and I cannot wait.   I have things I want to share but I know I can’t share them until I actually experience them. I don’t want to watch the women in the movies do it anymore, or live through my friends or fellow bloggers (I plan on improving at this whole blogging business by the way).  I want a journey of my own.  I have a burning desire to write and to continue my passion of helping others find direction by actually following some of my own advice for once.  I’m so good at telling other people how to follow steps and live out their dreams yet I have always sat back and watched.  I’ve been running a business for over three years (that shocks me to say) giving people spiritual advice with some successful results which makes me really happy.  It’s time to follow my intuition and do it for me.  I just want to go….  I want to sit on the banks of the river Nile again and look out at the sunset; a view so big it was as if I was on another planet.  I want to immerse myself in cultures full of vibrancy and smiles that in a western culture would seem so displaced.  I want to finally let my heart rule and not my head and that’s not in some soppy romantic rom com kind of way where some dude shows up on a white horse.  It’s more of a do what I want to do for me kind of way and not for anyone else.  Not for my parents, not for societies expectations, not for the could of, would’ve, should’ve or the devil voice on my shoulder.  Just me and my inner child that’s been waiting all these years.

We value such superficial things.  Possessions, Property, Metallic Coins, Plastic Cards, Status symbols. I’m not discouraging those who want other things than what I want but all I know is that I am no longer satisfied.  I’ve always had a restless heart.  I inherited it from my mother.  A gypsy soul.  I’m not delusional. I know these journeys aren’t always a walk in the park and I’ll face some real emotions too but that’s all part of it.    I want to collect memories, hearts, smiles and experiences.  I want to laugh again, truly laugh.  These butterflies in my chest are trying to lift me off the ground and they are saying go.   I want to wake up in a new place every other day.  I want to get to know new people and say goodbye only to find more.  For this is the reality of life.  It’s our holding on that destroys us.  Nothing is ever lost. Memories are never stolen from you.  People come and people go.  What is a constant and what always remains is you.  And you…you should always be enough.

That’s what I know now.  I am enough and I am almost ready to set sail.  I learnt something this past year and a half. Something that took me 23 years to learn.  It’s something that may seem so simple to some but it is way more than that to me.  Sitting in a room alone.  Being comfortable with my own company and knowing that loneliness is a false reality.  Being alone doesn’t make you sadly lonely the false pretence that being alone is something to be sad about is what makes you lonely.  So it’s time to make a plan, but not a rigid one, for I’m a chameleon soul and I change my mind often and I like to allow for a little spontaneity Perhaps that is the beauty of it.  I was destined to change my mind every day.  I take experiences and I grow from them and they change my perception of things.  I also take the time to consider other peoples points of view and musings.  I have 100 different personalities and egos and it can be a lot to keep up with, believe me.  I’m quite the mad hatter but I’m not going to apologise for that anymore or try and make myself more sane for the sake of pleasing people.  I love that I’m crazy wild and that I go up and down like a yo yo.  Or a child full of sugar on an indoor trampoline.

So what’s the point of all this?  This will be a documentation of my journey and what is going to happen I don’t know.  What I can be sure of is that this gravitational pull is getting stronger by the day and that it is time for me to finally acknowledge what I have known all along.

Merry Christmas and A belated Happy New Year

Christmas and New Year is funny time. It is a time to reflect, a time to share with family and with friends, and a time to celebrate our achievements over 365 days. However often this time of year for others is spent feeling a loss. There are many people, sadly out there who do not have family members to celebrate with. There are families who had planned a beautiful Christmas for their children and have had things stolen. This is a time of year where I like to give back. On Christmas day I was travelling from my father’s house to my grandmothers on the train and there was an elderly lady in my carriage with a Zimmer frame. When the train came to her stop she couldn’t get to the doors in time before the train started to move again. She was utterly distraught and looked lost for as to how she would get to her destination. I looked around the carriage and people just seemed frozen, I thought to myself “ is no-one going to help this woman.?” I got out of my seat and went over to her and offered her some cash for a taxi at the next stop. Other people on the train looked at me as if to say “why would you do that.” I couldn’t understand why it was so difficult for people to at least get up and help her. I would like to think in the not so distant future we could turn into a society that trusts each other again and doesn’t see helping strangers as such a task, perhaps if we were all a little more selfless and a little less selfish the world would be a better place. I’m not trying to be a preaching greeny here just saying it how it is. I look forward to paying it forward this year, perhaps not necessarily financially but at least even as that person who smiles to the other person on the street and makes there day. Happy 2015 everyone and may your new years resolutions hold fast and be completed.

Body Image and the dreaded demon-EXERCISE!

I crane my neck at times when I look at the advertising and imagery that is out there promoting beauty products to woman. Are we really supposed to look that superbly photo shopped? Is this the image we would want to project onto our young women of the next generation? We could sing from the rooftops that we no longer strive to be stick figures but perhaps we have become so used to skinny, flawless women being the status quo in marketing we don’t think to speak out. I drive past some of these billboards and I wonder if these women who are starving themselves really think they are all the better for it. It is time for a call to-change and to learn some ways to help bring these changes about. I guess the thing that makes me ponder is, how can we possibly send out this idea to women that they should all look like this cookie cut image when, of course, all women are different. Individuality and diversity should be celebrated not discouraged.

I could seriously drown myself in a box of chocolate fish right now. I love all things sweet and I do sometimes have a tendency to comfort eat. Unfortunately for me, and for the rest of us, chocolate and goodies don’t sit so well on the hips, bum or thighs. So it’s a balancing act between a moment of joy and hours spent in the gym. As a personal preference I do tend to find curvier women more attractive. Love her or hate her I think Kim Kardashian has a beautiful figure. I have had my own struggles with my weight. I tend to fluctuate I can be anything from 70kg to 90kg. Earlier this year I escalated to probably the most overweight I have ever been 92 kg. It wasn’t until family took me aside and pointed out what a drastic difference had occurred and that I started working on it. I tend to find I lose weight fast without even trying either when I travel or I am really truly happy. When I feel fulfilled in my life I don’t feel the need to comfort in, and I am so busy with my passions I don’t feel the hunger I usually do when I am depressed.

When it comes to exercise I have learnt this year that it is something that can be enjoyed. It doesn’t have to be a chore. I especially love my workout classes at les mills, having others around me to amp me up and keep me motivated is a great way to get the spirits lifted. I always feel amazing after a class.   I also love Bikram yoga, there is a great little place near to where I live and for only $15 you get an hour long yoga class as well as an all you can eat dinner and dessert. The people are lovely and it’s a great environment to go and feel Zen. Dancing and Zumba can be another great outlet for getting the endorphins going and shedding the weight. I love dancing around the room with a bunch of girls to the latest hits and latin tracks like I would (embarrassingly) in my bedroom to my ipod. Exercise is different for everyone and it is all about the finding the outlet that best suits you.

I’m off out to a party tonight and I was going to be a lazy bones and take the car but I have decided I am going to walk as I won’t have an opportunity to exercise today otherwise. Outdoor air is so refreshing!

All this body image and exercise stuff being said, at the end of the day all that really matters is that you are ok with you and within yourself. Don’t let others tell you who you should or shouldn’t be. Know that your body is a temple and take care of it but don’t let barbie doll ideals make you believe that you have to look like Heidi Klum or Miranda Kerr. Curvy is beautiful. So is a smile!

Relationships and the joy of being ok with you

I know that we might sometimes all struggle when it comes to our relationships.  Our intimate relationships especially are the ones that we can struggle the most with. Many people may find themselves at least once in a lifetime in the predicament of saying “ I want you to stay” to the wrong person.  But what is it that makes us grab on to these so called ‘special’ somebodies.  Perhaps sometimes it can be our insecurities that make us cling on.  Our fear that we may not come across as sexy to someone else.  I would say the most important piece of advice I have received in my young life when it comes to our relationships is that it is important to love yourself before you can expect another to love you in return.   I might drink a little more of my own medicine sometimes if it wasn’t for my little inner demon telling me that I need to search outward for the love of others before I can justify myself to myself, if that makes sense.  In this process I go about killing any chance I originally had to be kind to myself and top my own battery tank up as I call it. If only we were a little more willing to try it another way. Can you picture your life in a way where you wake up in the morning and tell yourself you are beautiful and that is just as gratifying as someone else saying it?  My main fear for women and men respectively when it comes to their relationships is that I don’t want to ever see a person continue to be in a relationship simply because they rely on that person to top them up all the time. It definitely causes a strain on the other person.  Keep reminding yourself every day that you can be beautiful in your own right without needing someone else to affirm it to you. Don’t get me wrong its lovely to hear compliments from time to time but it blurs the line when it becomes a constant search for them.  Now I want you to close your eyes and imagine you are sitting in a car looking at the rear view mirror and in the reflection is you how you would like to see yourself.  How do you look? Who are you with? Where are you?  My image is me dressed in skinny jeans and a big parka coat and bug eye glasses, sort of like posh spice.  Next to me is my hunky husband and we hold the hands of our two children as we cross the road.  To me that is the image of happiness. There will be different answers for each of you.  I’m dreaming here of the future I envision at 30 but this is the perfect way to do it if you want to make sure that you don’t let go of your goals.  None of us really want to be alone. In fact, it is unhealthy for us to be completely solitary for long periods of time. All of us need companionship however unhealthy companionship cannot be justified simply because it is companionship and therefore must be better than being alone.  This is, of course, false logic.  So how do we find a healthy medium between companionship and being ok in ourselves?  I guess some of us have to make the same mistake over and over again until we come to learn what that is. I guess that’s the learning path in life for some of us.  I really feel sorry for those poor souls that cling on to relationships they are unhappy in though simply for fear of being alone.  I think we all come to a point in our lives though where being alone becomes ok and becomes bearable. On a completely different level some of us come to really enjoy our alone time and witness a sense of enjoyment and happiness within ourselves when it comes to these moments on our own.  Which brings me to this, is it only in the night that loneliness becomes hard?  What is it about night time and sharing that time before sleep with someone else? Discussing the days’ newspaper and events, having a cuddle or sharing an intimate moment.  I envy those people who have found their special person.  However at the end of the day the time we spend with our special people we must cherish as everyones life eventually comes to an end and one must go before the other.  This is why so many people end up tapping into spirituality.  They are trying to get in touch with a loved one they have lost, or they are trying to understand why the love has gone from their relationships.  Others ask wether they should enter into new relationships.  I guess the organ most of us want to protect the most is ours hearts.  But I firmly believe our hearts are not designed to be trapped up inside a cage.  Our hearts need to be left vulnerable in order to function properly and flourish. We have to always run the risk of getting hurt.  Anyway I guess that’s a long enough spiel from me. Just food for thought

Love and Light

Isis

Sweetness

Enjoy the sweeter things in life. It is all very well to monitor ourselves and be hard on ourselves when it comes to indulging. But there is always a little time for decadence.  Everything in moderation.  Sugar may not necessarily be the best thing for us and I am in no way advocating for it and saying go out and enjoy all the treats you want, no! But what I am saying is don’t deprive yourself of the things that make you happy.  Sometimes when we feel guilty in other areas of our lives we end up punishing ourselves by limiting fun and ceasing to do the things, or eats the things we enjoy.  I personally went through a time recently where I wasn’t particularly happy with my life.  I found that eating was the only thing that could make me feel mildly happy or fulfilled but it was a quick fix and the entire time the things I was getting satisfaction from were very unhealthy for me.  Things like fast food, lollies, fizzie drinks, confectionery etc.  I know it is important for us who suffer from time to time to try and avoid becoming addicted to things and make observations when we have a problem.  A glass of wine from time to time is lovely, or that piece of cake. Don’t starve yourself or bore yourself.  I have been working hard to get my figure and my self esteem back recently and I am really stoked with the results. I feel so much happier in myself but at the same time I do know that its not the end of the world if I enjoy a piece of cake or a burger and chips while out with friends every once in a while.

Taking time out for ourselves

I can’t stress enough how important it is to take care of ourselves on a regular basis. To take time out to listen to music, to bake, to admire art. To gift ourselves with beautiful things. I often look in jewlery store windows and think if I could save my pennies that I spend on silly little things like eating out and drinking coffee I could buy myself some beautiful earings or a necklace that I could forever treasure. Don’t wait for someone to treat you! Treat yourself! Another great way to treat yourself is to go out to a show or to the theater. I took great comfort earlier this year when I was feeling a bit flat in sitting in a movie theater alone. Time spent alone is not wasted time. In fact it is quite the opposite. Sometimes the hardest thing to see for us spiritual beings, are the opportunities that are right in front of our eyes. If you have been feeling a bit flat recently you would be suprised how much you are affected by the noises that surround you. I tend to find listening to some classical music makes me feel nice and calm and relaxed. During these winter months here in New Zealand I can’t think of anything better than lighting a fire and laying out to read or book or engage in a discussion with a good friend or family member. Whatever it is that you do for you. Take some time out for yourself this winter.

Love and Light

Isis

Oprah! The inspirational Angel

I got home today and had convinced myself I would be working on my university work. However five minutes on Facebook couldn’t hurt right?  Plus my horoscope had said to have some me time today, some soul time as I like to call it. I came across a link to Oprah’s OWN network on my Facebook travels. I foraged my way through onto You tube to the video of her speech at Harvard. How inspiring!

She spoke about her stumbles in life and referred to an old hymn she had remembered from her childhood “Trouble don’t last always: this too shall pass”

When times in our lives are rough and trying sometimes, from my own experience, we believe it is going to be that way forever. It really isn’t. Thinking about the Wheel of fortune in the traditional tarot card decks. Our lives are like a pinwheel constantly evolving and developing and changing from the highs to the lows. I am a big believer, however, that it is up to us as individuals to get the spokes in our wheel turning and pull ourselves up from these lows. Oprah goes on to say that if you are a person who pushes yourself to achieve great things, raising the bar, you will at some point stumble due to the law of averages. She says these stumbles are not failures but merely life trying to move us in another direction. In times where our wheel is low and we feel we are upside down and on the edge we must always know that our heart may be broken but our spirit is not.

She talks about finding your true calling and your purpose. Not just thinking about what you want to be and what you want to achieve but also about who you want to be and why? “what is your dharma?” she says.

We are all individual angels on our individual path living out our own individual kharmas. However we influence others and others influence us. Often when I try to remember the happiest moments in my own life I realize these moments were always moments spent with others, especially when others acknowledged I had done something well, moments when others were proud of me. In her speech Oprah alludes to the fact that all of us as humans strive for recognition. We all want to feel we have done something right, or that we are worth something. This yearning is what unities us and as she says in her speech “What unites us is far more redeeming than anything that separates us.” How do we stand united when not all of us are uniting. When others clash?

The world does have negativity in it, yes. I am not a believer of distracting oneself and trying to convince yourself and others that all is well and good as it is not. However us light workers are not alone in our mission. Oprah is one of them. Her most appealing quote to me in her speech…..“there has to be some way that this darkness can be banished with light” There has to be some way to make good triumph over evil and overcome the evils and atrocities that continue to go on in our daily world. It is a big dream but it is achievable. All we all need is a little more belief in ourselves

As a young girl and young adult I have always wished and wanted to please people. To make others happy and to feel that others were happy with me. So I played roles. I developed characters. I told white lies to my friends and family so that they would think I was cool or so they would praise me or feel proud of me. When I did something wrong I would deny it in fear that someone would disapprove of me.  I acknowledge as I reflect now, I lost myself and my true purpose. The girl inside me had potential and knew deep within that she believed in what was good and kind but for some reason didn’t feel that would be enough. I believe this came from my first social experiences at kindergarten where the nice girls were never really the popular ones. The bully’s ruled the roost.  Oprah states that Being herself was much easier than pretending to be Barbara Walters and that she was a better Pprah than a pretend Barbara walters. I am a better me than a pretend Beyonce or Angelina jolie or Hayley Westenra.

So what is the goal in life according to oprah?

To fulfill the highest, most truthful expression of yourself as a human being. To Max out your humanity! Do what you love and do it well and teach others to do what they do well

To finish with a quote she mentions inside her address to the graduating Harvard students

“Don’t ask yourself what the world needs ask yourself what makes you come alive and then go do that” Howard Thurman

How are you?

How are all my angels doing out there? Do you have someone in your life that makes you feel like their sweetheart? Has someone pledged themselves to you? If not do not fear or feel a loss. Pledge yourself to yourself. Promise yourself to yourself. It is very easy to feel empty and blue when you are not with someone but don’t forget that you are always with yourself. Sometimes spending time alone can actually be really soothing company. Even people in relationships or with a lot of friends can feel quite alone at times. This is because they are not taking the time to check in with them self, or their inner child. A lot of us in this western world have gotten into a really bad habit of self sabotaging. Make sure that you don’t get into a war with yourself. Have you caught yourself lately being self critical about your body and pointing out your flaws? I find it helps to keep a book or journal and write inside it every time someone pays you a compliment or says something nice about you. It is a great tool to reflect back to when you are feeling in need of a bit of a pick me up. Do you have some goals in your life that you are trouble achieving? Are you aware that man walked on the moon? Anything and everything is possible and yes, you can achieve it. Stop being so hard on yourself. Our angels and goddesses don’t spoon feed us unfortunately. They are there for us at all times but they are not there to walk us through everything. They give us this wonderful power, the power to take matters into our own hands. That is true freedom. Count your blessings and be grateful for it. Ever heard of the phrase “Fake it till you make it?” It is a great tool. You can do anything if you kid yourself into believing that you are already up on that pedestal with those who have already done it or are capable of doing it. Are there people in your life that are no longer serving you? Those people who seem to always be sucking your happiness and energy. There is nothing wrong with coming to the realisation that some people aren’t meant to be in our lives fulltime. I am having the exact same predicament in my own life at present. I have one particular friend who really irritates me, bugs me and is always judging me. Never makes the effort to come and see me and always expects me to meet her wherever she is. She behaves really inappropriately whenever she is around me. I don’t want to see her anymore but I also feel this huge sense of guilt because of this. Does it make me a bad person because I don’t want to hang out with her anymore? Surely not. Because when you think of it this way, she has the right to have friends in her life that actually enjoy her company. This next subject I am going to bring up may be a bit touchy for some people but I feel it needs to be mentioned. Alcohol is a huge problem here in New Zealand. Today I made the decision to give up drinking until the end of my academic year. I didn’t like the way I was drinking to suppress emotions and not deal properly with the underlying issues. I know it can be hard to admit to yourself that perhaps you do have a problem with drinking. There are more people out there in that position than you may realise. I have had to step away from a certain friend because of the way that she behaves under the influence of alcohol and how uncomfortable my other friends feel around her. People won’t socialise with me if she is around anymore. That hurts, to turn away a friend when she is in need. But I am not in a position to help her unfortunately. Initially she has to want to help herself. If you, or someone you care about is having issues with alcohol or has become dependent on it call upon your angels and tell them about your worries and fears. Let them know how your friends’ position makes you feel. Ask them to take away the burden of you or your friend. The angels are always there to help us but only if we ask. If you are feeling abandoned by your angels at this time ask yourself….have I been speaking and communicating with my angels? Or have I been distancing myself from them? I am not saying that alcohol itself is entirely bad just in excess. There are a lot of organisations and support networks out there to help those who are suffering. Being social doesn’t mean that you have to drink. Often when I go out I will order a mock tail so it looks like to others that I am not drinking. The hard thing about having friends that drink is that it can be hard not to drink when they are drinking because they think that you are judging them.
Is there someone in your life that is currently irritating you? Or “grinding your gears” instead of expressing your anger which ends up affecting your own inner peace and health. Just send them love. You might not like the person’s actions but it is very unhealthy and heavy with bad Karma to start hating a person. If you hold onto all of that aggression and anger neither of you win. It’s a lose-lose situation. It’s true, that storey that our elders often tell us. When you get older be grateful if you can count your friends on one hand. I don’t really think friends are designed to be surrounded by masses and masses of friends. Not everybody will take the time to get to know you and that’s ok. Just be grateful for the ones that do and make sure you re pay the favour. Whatever your problems are at this time please don’t keep them bottled up. Every night when your head hits the pillow list all your problems of the day and as your list them imagine your angels surrounded you and collecting your list and dealing with all your problems while you sleep. Usually when you do this they will come to you in your dreams with a little message. Often it will be cryptic so keep a watchful eye 
Perhaps for some of you things are going great in your world. I congratulate you for that. And I am very glad to hear it. That’s the way things should be

Love and Fear

I have been reading “conversations with god” It talks about the concept of love and fear and how they are the two base feelings that create our world. It makes sense.

When you sit back and think about what drives us to do what we do, what makes us react and act the in the way we do, what we create for ourselves you realise fundamentally its driven by one or the other.

The key is to try and manifest more love into our lives.  Love has many many forms. I am not solely talking about mills and boon head over heels love. I also speak about passion, enthusiasm, drive, excitement, joy.

Feeling like each and every thing you do in your day is coming from a place of love, attracts more of the same to you.

Lately, another big theme for me is attitude.  Think to yourself…”how can I look at the situation I am currently in from a better perspective.  How can I make the most out of this?”

I love this little tid bit here from steve carrell because it is so very true.

How much of other peoples negativity do we let dictate our lives?

Instead of waking up and thinking….I cant do this and that because bla bla or so and so said I can’t.  Go….I am telling myself I can do it and as long as I believe I can do it I will.

I know this works because I adopt it myself in my day to day life.  It goes back to that old principle of being your one and only best friend.  Confidence comes from a place of love.  If you love yourself enough you will give yourself a break.

“what you do today is important because you are exchanging a day of your life for it”

One technique I use is to close my eyes ( in a comfortable position) and remember myself as a little girl. I do my best to remember what my younger self really wanted from her life. What excited me when the everyday responsibilities and realities started to take hold.  When I could dream and imagine without fear and doubt what did I want?

I am doing my best to still try and realize those goals and I urge each and every one of you to do the same.

A dream you had as a child doesn’t have to remain a childhood dream.Even if the goal requires small baby steps one by one by one its still progress.